Dear Anna (October 2000) 12

Dear Anna,

My son’s girlfriend is a sweet, polite young lady. She helps him with his homework.

She appreciates his small tokens of affection.

And I can tell my son is really happy with her.

She seems perfect, but there is one thing that bothers me.

Whenever she comes over, she finds something in my house to clean. It makes me feel uncomfortable, like she doesn’t approve of how I keep my house. I haven’t said anything because I don’t want to alienate my son. What should I do?

“Married to a Bachelor”
Sunset Valley

Dear “Married”,

If having your son’s girlfriend clean your house bothers you that much, there’s only one thing to do…SEND HER TO MY HOUSE!

I don’t think she means you any ill will. In fact, she seems to be enamored of your son and wants to impress you with her domestic skills. It also sounds like she spends a lot of time at your house, so you should be flattered that your son and his girlfriend enjoy hanging out with the “old folks.” Unless you think she may have an obsessive-compulsive disorder, I say let her clean to her heart’s content. Put your feet up, go shopping, get a massage, and enjoy yourself! Save your worrying for real problems.

Best Wishes, Anna